We’ve all asked ourselves this question at one point in our lives.
Why is it so hard to detangle ourselves away from a situation that we know is no good for us?
We just can’t resist that apple on the tree.
I’ll tell you the reason why…
Everyone wants what they can’t have.
We can become completely devoted to one person too early on in a relationship, and then we come across easy. No matter how pretty, how much personality you may have to offer, if you put all your eggs in one basket and the other person knows this, Immediately the relationship is unbalanced and unfortunately you’ve got the short straw.
We are then that poor soul who’s love struck over a false perception of someone. We latch onto the way we think they make us feel…
When really, we are the ones that enable them to make us feel that way.
So What Do We Do?
Think positive and towards the future.
Going over and over the past in your mind DOES NOT help. No matter how many times you go back, your still stuck in the present. And the present can be just as bright if you let it.
Detaching yourself away from that person is essential. As much as you try to persuade friends or even yourself that having their Facebook is okay, it’s not. THAT IS A LIE. Holding onto memories of the other person does not help. Delete their snap chat, Instagram Facebook and any other associations with them immediately. You want to move forward not hang onto outdated habits that no longer benefit or progress your future.
When we let ourselves become the victim and by becoming dependant on someone else we forget ourselves. Look around and rather than focus on everything that is going wrong in your life, be optimistic and focus on the good. When you put things into perspective there’s probably way more things to be happy about.
Immerse Yourself Around Friends.
A good friend is always there in need. And sometimes we forget just how important it is to have a strong support system behind us. It’s okay to have a little cry. It’s good therapy to have a little bitch and get some anger out your system but don’t isolate yourself off from the world feeling sorry for yourself, as our actions become our reality. We can forget that love has no form and can be found in any relationship if we let it. Go out, let your hair down, have fun with your friends even getting a late night takeaway and a good film can be soul healing.
Most Importantly, Think Of Yourself.
Where am i heading? What is in store for me? What makes me happy?
Figure out the things that bring you joy in life. It could be writing, reading, dancing, acting. Anything that makes you laugh or makes you feel fulfilled. At the end of the day all anyone wants from a relationship is to be loved and be happy. Once we realise that we can love AND be happy without expecting it in a certain way. Knowing that we can love ourselves just as much as we love others will not only help us find happiness but also the RIGHT kind of relationship when push comes to shove.
Having enough respect for yourself to realise that self-love is the key to happiness will make it so much easier to forget the negative energy in the past and move onto a more positive happy future.
This post was inspired by Lapsley new song Hurt me but i have decided that the song ‘Let it all go’ By birdy Featuring RHODES is much more appropriate. Anyone that is going through a break up take a listen you will LOVE it! It’s definitely on repeat for me.
Let it all go- Birdy ft rhodes
Hope this can help out anyone that’s feeling the burn right now, we’re all in the same boat! Feel free to comment, share and repost guys until next time..
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